Our response to being bullied in the workplace ranges from fear to anger. How do we respond? Tempting as it is to hit back, and most of the responses I have come across reflect this, may we pause for a moment.
The bullied becomes the bully. All the things we abhor, we may become. Is there an alternative? I have devoted myself to working with clients to see things differently.
For starters, bullying doesn’t work very well. Consider the playground scenario: “Give me your sweets or I’ll knock you over.” Sure it works first time, but next time I avoid you and don’t share my sweets with you.
It’s the same in business. Our people avoid telling us what we so need to hear, because last time we shouted them down (bullied them). That’s one reason some of the biggest corporate crashes have occurred.
Track back a moment to why he bullied us. Was he bullied himself? In understanding him can we begin to deal with our own response?