Does telling someone to stop actually work?

Nope. Try watching this weeks Dragons’ Den when plucky singing Jackie McKay wants to keep on going. (25 mins in)

4 Dragons are resisting. Theo is quite harsh. Duncan lays it on thickest. The harder the language the more she resists.

But I guess we should have known this really. She’s an entrepreneur after all. “Give up” is not in her vocabulary.

Pushing hard, although intended for good, can come across as bullying even. Paradoxically it actually reinforces the opposite of what we intend.

Deborah Meaden tries going round the obstacle by engaging Jackie in the story of all of us: it’s very hard to change direction once you have set yourself on a course.

Once the defences are up, the battle is often lost and good advice leads to unresolved conflict.

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About drstevelewis

Good leadership is essential for any project to succeed. I specialise in the most difficult leadership challenges; those involving the way we relate to other people or the way they relate to us. With a background of many years in business and an earlier training in medicine I combine the two in a unique consultancy.
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